I recently stumbled upon a question, the type of question that took to my heart.

If you lost all your memory and you had to choose one person to tell you who

you were, who would you choose, and why?

I never really thought about something deeply until I came upon this question.

I have a lot of friends, family, and people in my life who I care wholeheartedly for.

However, the one part that ties them all together is, do they really know me?

I have a lot of things, experiences, and memories I hide from the people I love

Because it’s not certain people will see me for who I am now if I tell them.

Though to me, it’s not always a bad thing. Those experiences, those events,

those memories I hide shape who I am today. They change me for the better.

They make me promise myself to always do the next step better than the last.

If I did choose one single person to tell me who I am, sure they’ll tell me the small

bits and pieces of what they know about me, but not what I know about me. I’ll

be living with a void in my heart, constantly questioning am I truly me? Or am I

living as a version of myself without the parts that make me, me? Is a person

actually a person without the experiences they hide from people that defines who

they are?

What if there was another choice? The choice where nobody reminded you who

You were? Would you take it? If it were up to me, my choice would immediately

be yes.

I wouldn’t want to live with a hole in my heart, walking around without the experiences that define me. I would rather be around my loved ones, creating new memories with them. The ones I hide, and the ones I do tell, ultimately getting back to what makes me, me.

Ask a friend, a family member, someone you’re always around, what do they know about you?

Whatever they tell you, does it define who you really are as a person? If someone told you that

to remind you of who you were, would you be the same person you are now? Or would it make you choose another path? The one where you create new memories, ones that’ll hopefully shape yourself into a mirror of who you are now.

Back to the question, if you lost all your memory, and you had to choose one person to tell you who you were, who would you choose, and why?

My answer is, I would choose no one, I couldn’t just choose one person. Nobody would have a

memory of who I truly am, just the bits and pieces of myself I do show. Nobody would know

the hidden parts of me that truly shape who I am, and that is what’s most important about a

person.

Finding a new way to define yourself from scratch instead of living with an unsealable void inside of you is why we can be unique.

We’re all unique in our own way, defined by the experiences we hide from our loved ones. It may seem subtle, but if you truly believe and understand hard enough, it’s been right in front of your eyes the whole time.